Thursday, September 22, 2016

A gift to my dear in-laws leading to precious memories

It was that time of the year, where my husband and I got enthusiastic to do something for his parents on their 37th wedding anniversary. I had lost my dad exactly 5 month's prior to my in-law's anniversary. It was beyond doubt one of those moment's for me to ascertain the significance of our parent's. Sometimes they fail, yet they try to do their best for us.

When we had about 2 weeks, I took out my diary and composed the lyrics. My husband got busy in creating music, that felt divine. We were geared up, cleared the decks and practiced this over and over.

On their grand day, we posted this on YouTube and forwarded the link to them. It indeed made them feel more young and beautiful.

Here is the video for you to feel that moment of what we felt!

We booked a 10 day trip for them to UAE the following month. Glad to come over and as soon they stepped in, the first thing my mother-in-law wanted to check was, the lyrics written by me. I handed over my diary. May be she wanted to know what my feelings were when I wrote this for them. Of course who wouldn't want to know?








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A photo posted by Queenie D'Souza (@queeniesshortpoetry) on


Such reminiscences keep us alive and are the one's which will be adored for ages.

It was a dream come true for both of us to bring them here, take them around to show some beautiful places, cook good food, feed them and enjoy their company. Those 10 days were heavenly, with our silly chats, gossips of all kinds, fun and laughter.

My mother-in-law is fond of music. We had few jamming sessions and surprisingly my father-in-law too joined us. I wish I had those videos uploaded on YouTube. It is somewhere there saved on one of our old mobile's.

We have our days and we have bad times. But the good times spent will never get bitter and old. These moment's will remain young, fresh, ever beautiful & close to our heart.

Wednesday, September 14, 2016

Inhumane Humanity

Something peculiar did strike me where I could feel the misery of innocent people.
Most of us are gifted with our desires, except an important trait which is a must.
I walked a mile in the shoes of a learned person, feeling content, as if nothing was lost, yet been called a 'failure' in life, because of no humanity.
We are at times inconsiderate towards others. If we take time to evaluate ourselves, we would never want to be the same!

Falling in love was easy,
Getting a doctorate, a dream come true.
Finding a job was a cake walk.
Satisfying! Wasn't it?
Yet, they called me a failure.
Proud was I, but the feeling was a lie,
It took time for me to realize,
That I had failed in life.
Because of no 'humanity'.

Humanity



Thursday, September 8, 2016

Know Your Circle


Have you ever felt sluggish/ lazy/ sleepy/ low energy level, on any day and do not know the reason behind it? Days where you want to pull up your blanket and never show your face to anyone! Do you know the theory behind this?
It is time to recall about the people who you are surrounded with, starting from family (your own & extended), relative's, friend's, neighbor’s and whoever you are in close relation with. One cannot break the ties with a certain group of people where we have no choice, especially when it is family. But we can perhaps cut down the time we spend with them (either face to face/online conversation's/phone).
Our lives somehow are hysterical, that we easily get attracted towards toxic people, without realizing the harm they cause.

We all have a friend who would love talking hours together (but what you hear from him/her would be, only ill of others).
We all have a neighbor who loves to gossip about the other neighbor’s kids (they make it even more interesting)
We all have a sis-in-law/bro-in-law who will spoil our relation with our mom-in-law/dad-in-law by saying all the worse things possible (they playing the safest game, by being sweet & kind to the in-laws while you end up miserably being in the bad books of your in-law’s)
We have a bunch of people who will stand up for all the wrong that is happening, with conviction (to show that you are at fault and make you live in guilt)
We also have that one person who keeps telling us - "Hey, they talk this and that about you" (we succumb to such small talks without knowing their motive)

Of course not to forget that colleague who will try to harm our career because they have lined up stories to make us feel unworthy & bad about the company that we are working in (The end result would be - You quit while you see even after years that colleague is enjoying the perks)
Sadly, we do reach a point where we are one among those toxic personalities.
Why? Because we gave them the freedom to control us.
When did we realize? That pragmatic friend of ours started avoiding us.
That is the time we try figuring out where we have gone wrong!

Yes, we have people who bring us down with their toxic behavior.
We get to a juncture feeling vulnerable, wanting to come out of their clutches without jeopardizing our relationship with them.
Although very intricate that it may seem, we still have a way:-
  • Close your eyes, meditate. Breathe in (think of what you want to emulate), breathe out (the poison that disturbs your mind)
  • Categorize your hobbies on a sheet of paper, stay committed every day and work on it. Have a fanatical mind.
  • Sometimes, we find that certain people cannot be shunned, but we can surely change our style of talking (When we meet these people and get into a conversation, either we smile or ignore their negative talk, by simply showing our lack of interest). Learnt the art of subtle sarcasm which can be used with these people. 
Instead of being a slave to their actions, it is now time to learn your thoughts and actions. Remember, no one, but you, have the power over YOUR MIND!
In a world, where we feel the need of peace, let us start feeling and experiencing that peace individually.
Grow strong and help other's bounce back.


Tuesday, September 6, 2016

Life's Lesson doodle # 5 - Stay Kind to Yourself

If we have ever given it a thought, we would discover that we are our own enemy, who are immersed in negativity and not conscious of self. We let people walk over us by taking receipt of their treacherous acts. Understandable, that when encircled in a cynical environment, most of the situations, gets us whacked. But, where is our presence of mind? Can we for once hop off the treadmill?

I have perceived that people who are kind to me are the one's who give topmost importance to themselves. They are able to judge better and know when to end the game, acknowledging that their peace is important to live happily so as to safeguard this energy and disseminate it to people who play an important role in their lives. We often go to them when in trouble or need any sort of advice, because, they have given us the feeling of dependence of never letting us go in a distressed state of mind.

Whoever gets to read this either today, tomorrow or any other day, please know that you are precious & whip-smart, tranquil & beautiful. Take the liberty to feel royal and always treat yourself well, whatever you are facing right now. You will certainly feel the difference, enduring the fact that the universe is in accordance with your positive commands.


Doodle#5 Life's Lesson - Stay Kind to Yourself